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Tips for Managing Holiday Stress

11/22/2013

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Did you know that positive, happy events can cause just as much stress as some of the negative events in our lives?  Most of us recognize that things like health problems, financial problems, and conflict with those we love cause us stress.  But what about things like planning a wedding, preparing for the arrival of a new baby, or graduating from college and beginning the search for your first real job?  These are often positive, exciting events and they are events that can cause some stress.

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The holidays can be a time of stress for many.  For some the holidays are a negative stressor, with worries about finances, family conflict, or feelings of loneliness and depression.  For others the holidays can be a positive stressor with endless activities, gatherings, and to-do lists.


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For those who are beginning to feel their stress levels rise, here are some tips to  help manage stress this holiday season.

  • Examine your expectations for the holidays and consider if they are realistic or not.  Remember, there are only 24 hours in a day and something is bound to not go perfectly.
  • Prioritize the traditions that are important to you, and consider skipping some of those things you really don’t enjoy or care about.
  • Create and stick with a budget.  Gifts don’t have to be expensive and sometimes less is more.
  • Be sure to get enough rest – Staying up late with friends and family can be fun, but don’t get carried away.  It’s easier to deal with stress when you are well rested.
  • Exercise – With so much to do or if you feel discouraged or depressed, it is easy to put your exercise routine on the back burner.  But exercise impacts our health and often our mood.  You can try switching things up a little during the holidays – go skiing, take a walk, have a family yoga session or a dance competition.  But try to do something.
  • Avoid overeating – It can be really easy to overeat during Thanksgiving and Christmas.  At the very least that can cause you to feel bloated and kind of sick.  Some people can gain a few pounds and then allow that to impact their self-image.  Practice being more mindful of the foods you eat.   Try really savoring and enjoying each bite.  People who eat this way often find they eat less, but are more satisfied. 
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  • Listen to music you enjoy – Music can be a powerful tool for helping us feel better.  Make time to listen to music you enjoy during the holidays - maybe as you cook, visit, drive, or dance.  It doesn’t have to be holiday music, but it does need to be music that helps you feel good.
  • Connect with others and enjoy spending time together.  If you don’t have family or friends to spend the holidays with, consider volunteering and reaching out to others who could use some help or some company.
  • Be sure to take a little time for yourself – Enjoy a bubble bath, read a book, watch a favorite movie, put together a puzzle – do something that helps you relax.  You will have more energy for the many holiday activities if you invest a little time in yourself.
  • Tune into your five senses and take a moment to really enjoy your favorite things about the holidays.  Some examples include:
                      Sights - (Christmas lights, falling snow, manger scenes)
                    Sounds - (Christmas carols, bells, laughter)
                    Smells - (Pine, cinnamon, pumpkin)
                    Tastes - (Peppermint, hot chocolate, turkey, dressing, pie)
                    Touch - (Hugs, cozy blankets, heat from the fireplace, pine needles)

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Be Not Ashamed

11/5/2013

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“I’ve never told anyone this before…”
“I’m afraid people would judge me if they knew…”
  “I don’t want you to think badly of them…”


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These are just a few examples of things I hear over and over in counseling.  So many people try to deal with difficult struggles alone, because they are afraid of the response they will get if they try to share or reach out for help.  But some burdens are too heavy to carry alone…

I feel honored when people trust me enough to share their secret burdens and I wish I could say their fears of judgement or misunderstanding were unfounded.  But alas, that is not currently the case in our society.  Don’t misunderstand.  As a society we are making great progess with regards to mental health, but we still have further to go.  There is still too much stigma surrounding mental health and mental health concerns.

Once or twice I have observed a fascinating reaction when asked what my job is.   I replied that I am a mental health counselor and the person said something like, “Oh, that’s great”, as they physically moved their body slightly backwards and away from me, almost as if they were afraid of catching something.  I believe they were unaware of the shift, and I think that shows how subtle the stigma against even the phrase “mental health” can be.  What we don’t understand can be scary and it can feel more comfortable to pretend mental health doesn’t exist. 

The irony of course is we all have some degree of mental health, just the same as we all have some degree of physical health, emotional health, and spiritual health.  Some people have physical illness and others have mental illness.  Both are real, both are treatable, and there should be no shame in opening up about either.  A real danger of the stigma is it often prevents people from seeking the help they need, especially if those around them react negatively when they do try to share.

In the same way that seeking medical attention early on in an illness can lead to better outcomes, seeking mental health treatment early on in a mental illness can also lead to better outcomes for many.  Together we must all help remove the stigma of mental health and open the way for people to seek treatment without fear of judgement. 

How can you help?  Educate yourself about mental health, offer compassion to those who are ill, lend a listening ear without judging, and encourage people to seek treatment early on.  Learn healthy coping skills, monitor yourself for signs of mental distress, and seek counseling yourself if you feel the need to lighten your load. 

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Elder Jeffrey R. Holland – a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints – recently gave a talk about mental health.  Following are a few quotes from his address:

“…these afflictions are some of the realities of mortal life, and there should be no more shame in acknowledging them than in acknowledging a battle with high blood pressure or the sudden appearance of a malignant tumor.”

“Also let us remember that through any illness or difficult challenge, there is still much in life to be hopeful about and grateful for. We are infinitely more than our limitations or our afflictions!”

He further counseled, “Whatever your struggle, my brothers and sisters—mental or emotional or physical or otherwise—do not vote against the preciousness of life by ending it! Trust in God.  Hold on in His love……Though we may feel we are “like a broken vessel,” as the Psalmist says, we must remember, that vessel is in the hands of the divine potter.  Broken minds can be healed just the way broken bones and broken hearts are healed.  While God is at work making those repairs, the rest of us can help by being merciful, nonjudgmental, and kind.”

You can read the full text of his talk here or watch it below.

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